Adopting Intentionally – Day 26
For 31 Days I am blogging about Adopting Intentionally, you can find an overview and links to daily posts here. On the weekends during this series I am inviting guest bloggers to share. Today Crystal is sharing her second devotion on adoption.
Scripture Reading: 1 John 4: 7 – 19, New Living Translation
7 Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God. 8 But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love. 9 God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. 10 This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins. 11 Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other. 12 No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us. 13 And God has given us his Spirit as proof that we live in him and he in us. 14 Furthermore, we have seen with our own eyes and now testify that the Father sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. 15 All who declare that Jesus is the Son of God have God living in them, and they live in God. 16 We know how much God loves us, and we have put our trust in his love. God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them. 17 And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. So we will not be afraid on the day of judgment, but we can face him with confidence because we live like Jesus here in this world. 18 Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love. 19 We love each other because he loved us first.
At several points in both the Old and New Testaments God pleads with his people to “fear not” and to “do not be afraid.” This is many times easier said than done, but nonetheless, biblical. Fear is the opposite of faith. God clearly wants us to trust him, relax, and know that he has a plan for us. This translates also to the adoption experience.
The unknowns of the adoption process can be scary. The steps involved in adoption with a private agency such as releasing all personal financial data, completing a home visit, talking to agency counselors about your family history, clearly articulating the reasons you want to adopt, and discussing your philosophy of parenting can seem intimidating and invasive. But, if God has planted the seed of adoption in your soul, he will surely give you the strength, patience, and persistence to see the process through. “God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished,” (Philippians 1:6, New Living Translation).
In addition to fears that may creep in to a prospective adoptive parent’s mind about the adoption process itself, well meaning friends and family can often times make comments projecting unfounded and uneducated fears. When my husband and I had first become matched with our daughter’s birthmother, I remember friends asking, “aren’t you afraid that she (birth mom) will change her mind” and “aren’t you afraid that one day she/they (birth mom/birth family) will want her back?” As a response to these comments, God says, “do not fear.” 1 John 4:18 states, “love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear.” When we experience and come to a deeper understanding of the fullness of God’s love, there is no fear. In the place of fear is instead a quiet, calm, peaceful confidence. The confidence that God gives is many times indescribable and difficult to understand, but unmistakable nonetheless.
Prayer: Dear God. Thank you for your confidence and reminder to put our trust in you. Help us to not be afraid, but every day to pray for not our, but your will be done. Guide us to your will for our lives, and let us trust you to lead us to be the people you want us to be.
Thought for the Day: Matthew 6:25-34, New Living Translation
25 “That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life—whether you have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn’t life more than food, and your body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, for your heavenly Father feeds them. And aren’t you far more valuable to him than they are? 27 Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?