31 Days {Day 30} : The Importance of Retreat

Adventure is a theme here.  We believe in adventuring out.  We believe it helps you learn about the world, about yourself . . .

We also embrace retreat.

Adventure and Retreat.  That brings a balance, a rhythm to living well.

It has felt more important than ever to make room for retreat in a month filled with 31 adventures.  So though we have not taken pictures of it, or blogged about it, we have been intentional about some retreating . . .

There really isn’t any sleeping in with a two year old, but there is snuggling in, where we stay in bed a little longer in the morning.

We have been having intentional family time in the mornings before we head off in different directions we try and read together, play together, or dance together

We have enjoyed drinking a good cup of tea and talking . . .

We found time for naps . . .

We have had nights in by the fire and read books together in the car.  We have played backgammon and watched Top Chef.  We have adventured out . . . but we have also intentionally found time to retreat.  And that has made all the difference.

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Updating as we go . . .

31-days-of-intentional-adventuresDay 1: About Intention
Day 2About Adventure
Day 3: Challenge – Community Event (Hayride)
Day 4: Challenge – Use Groupon (Daytrip)
Day 5: Challenge – Find Event on the Internet (Art Show +)
Day 6: Challenge – Head to the Local Fair
Day 7: Flashback Friday – AndrewLiza
Day 8: Challenge – Celebrate with Family
Day 9: Challenge – Celebrate Your Own Birthday
Day 10: Challenge – Adventure During Lunch
Day 11: Challenge – Accept an Invitation
Day 12: Challenge – Hot Air Balloon Part 1Part 2Part 3
Day 13: Challenge – Go to the Theater
Day 14:Flashback Friday – Andrew, Liza
Day 16: Challenge – A Giving Adventure
Day 17: Challenge – Highway Sign (Shaker Village)
Day 18:Challenge – Lunchtime Adventure (Outdoor Art)
Day 19: Challenge – Fire Safety Adventure
Day 20: Challenge – Lunchtime Adventure (REI)
Day 21: Challenge – Flashback Friday – AndrewLiza
Day 22: Challenge – Other People’s Homes
Day 23: Challenge – Adventures in Baking 
Day 24: Challenge – Adventure Outside
Day 25: Challenge – Embrace Speed 
Day 26: Challenge – A Haunted Maze 
Day 27: Challenge – A Night at the Museum
Day 28: Challenge – Flashback Friday Andrew, Liza 
Day 29: Challenge – March in a Parade
 

 

 

 

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31 Days {Day 29} : Marching Parade

Throughout the month of October, we have been intentional about Adventuring.  It is important to step out and experience and enjoy.  Once we step out we rarely know where the adventure will take us, and that is part of the joy.  May you enjoy the surprise.

We did not know what the “Pumpkin Fest” in our town would entail, or how much of it we would get to experience, but we decided we would take the cousins in the Costume Parade.

As we lined up they were photographed by a local website . . .

They were given bags and we headed off marching down the street . . . not knowing what the parade held . . .

It turned out it was a trick-or-treating parade to the various village stores.  A pretty tremendous experience for this little zebra . . .

Cole doesn’t know what candy is, but he liked holding it.

You never know what the journey will entail.  May we all hold on to what is sweet.

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Updating as we go . . .

31-days-of-intentional-adventuresDay 1: About Intention
Day 2About Adventure
Day 3: Challenge – Community Event (Hayride)
Day 4: Challenge – Use Groupon (Daytrip)
Day 5: Challenge – Find Event on the Internet (Art Show +)
Day 6: Challenge – Head to the Local Fair
Day 7: Flashback Friday – AndrewLiza
Day 8: Challenge – Celebrate with Family
Day 9: Challenge – Celebrate Your Own Birthday
Day 10: Challenge – Adventure During Lunch
Day 11: Challenge – Accept an Invitation
Day 12: Challenge – Hot Air Balloon Part 1Part 2Part 3
Day 13: Challenge – Go to the Theater
Day 14:Flashback Friday – Andrew, Liza
Day 16: Challenge – A Giving Adventure
Day 17: Challenge – Highway Sign (Shaker Village)
Day 18:Challenge – Lunchtime Adventure (Outdoor Art)
Day 19: Challenge – Fire Safety Adventure
Day 20: Challenge – Lunchtime Adventure (REI)
Day 21: Challenge – Flashback Friday – AndrewLiza
Day 22: Challenge – Other People’s Homes
Day 23: Challenge – Adventures in Baking 
Day 24: Challenge – Adventure Outside
Day 25: Challenge – Embrace Speed 
Day 26: Challenge – A Haunted Maze 
Day 27: Challenge – A Night at the Museum
Day 28: Challenge – Invest in Experiences

31 Days {Day 27} : A Night at the Museum

If you were to ask my two year old where he wanted to go today . . . on any given day at any time he would answer with uninhibited enthusiasm, “The Museum!”  He means the Wenham Museum, and it is his favorite place to go and explore.

This month the museum hosted an evening of “mystery” at the museum at night.  I had many reasons for not going . . . including that he would be out when we would normally be putting him to bed, he is too little to appreciate it, it might be scary . . .

But with my mother’s urging, we embraced the adventure, and I am so glad we did.  He had such a wonderful time.

There was a treasure hunt all set up, that he started doing with us, but he liked playing in the circus room, so he played with his grandmother (and was photographed for the local paper)  . . .

While his papa and mama completed the treasure hunt . . .

Once we did find the answer to the treasure hunt, “Conductor,” Cole went to get the prize . . .

I was concerned about the candlelight tour  . . . but Cole was a champ

Our little zebra walked around the wooden boards of the Claflin-Richards House and listened to the tales of its past occupants . . .

It was a great and memorable night at the museum, and I am so grateful that I let go of the “shoulds” and went for a special evening with our little guy . . .

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Updating as we go . . .

31-days-of-intentional-adventuresDay 1: About Intention
Day 2About Adventure
Day 3: Challenge – Community Event (Hayride)
Day 4: Challenge – Use Groupon (Daytrip)
Day 5: Challenge – Find Event on the Internet (Art Show +)
Day 6: Challenge – Head to the Local Fair
Day 7: Flashback Friday – AndrewLiza
Day 8: Challenge – Celebrate with Family
Day 9: Challenge – Celebrate Your Own Birthday
Day 10: Challenge – Adventure During Lunch
Day 11: Challenge – Accept an Invitation
Day 12: Challenge – Hot Air Balloon Part 1Part 2Part 3
Day 13: Challenge – Go to the Theater
Day 14:Flashback Friday – Andrew, Liza
Day 16: Challenge – A Giving Adventure
Day 17: Challenge – Highway Sign (Shaker Village)
Day 18:Challenge – Lunchtime Adventure (Outdoor Art)
Day 19: Challenge – Fire Safety Adventure
Day 20: Challenge – Lunchtime Adventure (REI)
Day 21: Challenge – Flashback Friday – AndrewLiza
Day 22: Challenge – Other People’s Homes
Day 23: Challenge – Adventures in Baking 
Day 24: Challenge – Adventure Outside
Day 25: Challenge – Embrace Speed 
Day 26: Challenge – A Haunted Maze 

A New Baby?

Two years ago in June, Colton was born and spent his first days in the hospital, alone.  There was great concern that he would be born addicted to drugs or that he would have Fetal Alcohol Syndrome.

The tremendous news was that he was healthy.  The hard news was that he was not allowed to come home to us, though we were ready for him.

Two years ago in July, Colton was in the home of a foster mother in Dorchester.  He was cared for. And though we were told he would never be able to come to our home, we knew that he would be taken care of.

 

Today we received a phone call . . .

 

There was a baby born in June.

He was born addicted to drugs.

He has been alone in the hospital for almost a month.

 

Would we be able to care for him?  Could we be his foster placement?

 

We are struggling to answer that question today.  Our hearts want to, but we don’t know that it is feasible.

Will you pray with us for this little boy?

 

 

Summer Week 1 {Birthday Week}: Guitar Man

Lesson 1 about Birthday Week is that you should do some of your favorite things the week of your birthday.

One of Cole’s favorite things is . . . the Guitar Man (the Music Man as he is more widely known, his friends and family call him Brian Doser).  To see Cole’s first experience see this post.

Cole has gotten much more bold . . . here is a previous video from May of how Cole enjoys the Guitar Man these days . . . he can still be a little shy, but mostly he is out dancing and singing.

Here is Cole enjoying the song “Jump/Freeze”

Sometimes the Guitar Man knocks him off his feet.

At the end of the day we talked to the Guitar Man, letting him know that it was Colton’s birthday this week, asking if we could get a picture . . . Colton got shy once again.  So we took a picture of the Guitar Man as he sang “Happy Birthday” to Colton

And then . . . as a little preview of what Cole did today on his actual birthday, we were out and about and ran into . . .The Guitar Man!  Cole literally had stars in his eyes.

Here is a picture of Cole with the Guitar Man!

Thanks for the picture Mémé!

Look at those two guys looking at each other, pretty great!

Cole is loving all he is getting to do during Birthday Week!

Toddler Time: The Moth and the Butterfly

I had seen it on the porch, a dead moth.  But Andrew was away and I let it be.

Cole was holding it when I came to the door; I saw the curiosity on his face.

But then in an instant the moth disintegrated into pieces in his hands, not of Cole’s doing, but because it was fragile.  And in that same moment, my smiling boy disintegrated into a wailing mourner.  The cry was honestly one I had not heard from him before.  It was a cry from his inside.  I rushed to him and held him as he wept.

Once I calmed him I removed the three pieces of moth.  He continued to weep, and I held him again.

A half hour later we were out for a walk.  He is loving walking and exploring.  And on our expedition there was a butterfly.  It was small and orange.

I thought about distracting him after the moth incident, but surely he would not make the connection between this lively, tiny, fluttering beauty and the dead, grey, lifeless mound on the porch.  And he didn’t.  He watched it until it eventually flew out of sight.

“Butterfly!”  He exclaimed, thrilled to know its name.

Hours later after many more adventures and explorations I put him down to bed.  He is a dream to put to bed.  He loves his crib and snuggles in with a smile and a prayer . . . and then he talks and sings to himself for up to an hour.

One hour after I put him down, he cried out.

I went to check on him.  He was laying on his back weeping.  When I came in he stopped.  He looked up at me and said, “Butterfly.”

I smiled at him, thinking his memory was settling him, “Yes, we saw a butterfly.”

His face scrunched up, and he looked at me in the eye with sadness, “I broke it!  I broke butterfly.”  He looked to me not knowing what to do.

Oh my little love who is not even two!  You are carrying this sadness with you, this guilt, this compassion, this regret!  How can I take it away?

“Oh buddy,” I mustered, “It was already broken.”

After settling him into his bed, he went right to sleep.

And I went and cried.

How do you protect your little ones from hurting?  How do you help them not to internalize and hold on to guilt and sadness.

There are a zillion books on parenting.  We are reading a couple currently.

But nothing prepared my heart to care so much for one little guy and a dead moth.